Monday, July 28, 2008

Is there anything more difficult than facing a parent's mortality?

My father called this evening to let me know that the doctor has found a mass on his thyroid and after various tests, they will be doing a biopsy on Wednesday. Or whenever the sixth is.

How can this be?

Regardless of the outcome of the test, my father is getting older. Things that used to be second nature for him, now take much longer or are not done at all.

He no longer rides his bike ten miles a day. (neither does his daughter but I'm pretty sure she never did.)

He and my mother no longer put in a large garden.

They no longer travel, other than to the various funerals and hospitals to visit their friends.

Even this daughter's eyes (who has viewed him through rose colored glasses for so many years) can finally see that he is growing older.

How can this be?

The strong vital man of my childhood is now several inches shorter than I am. His voice, which always echoed his personality, does not resonate through a room any more. It sometimes seems that he is becoming less and less.

And now this.

Of course, he told me that he's having trouble with gallstones too. The doctor told him that if his thyroid isn't cancerous then they will take out his gallbladder. As a punishment of sorts. Or so he says. And he'll try to talk her into taking both at the same time to save money. And while he's there, he'll meet a new friend or two. He'll talk about church and Jesus and leave them with a smile. Because that's the way he is.

And I can't imagine life without him.

9 comments:

Queen B said...

I'm so sorry. That must be so hard. I will be praying for you and your parents.

Mrs Amy said...

**hugs** I can imagine how tough this is, I will be praying for you and your dad.

annette said...

I have tears in my eyes, I rarely say this, but I do know how you feel. It's been that kind of year for us w/ all my dad's health issues.

I pray for your father to have a good report. No cancer in the Name of Jesus.

xxoo Annette

annie's eyes said...

Karen, I praying for your dad's healing. It is so sad to see our parents grow older. You are on my heart this day. Love, Annette

Ang baylis said...

Your father has passed on a lot to his daughter by the sounds of it. I'll be praying for him... and for his daughter! You are such a sweet one!

Love you,
Angie xoxo

THE ROOST said...

Isn't it the hardest thing watching our parents change? I will be praying for you....please keep us posted.

Michelle V said...

Karen, I'm praying for you! I am facing very similar issues and understand how you feel!

Blessings
Michelle

Ang baylis said...

How's your Dad today?
I'm praying for you all!
Love,
Angie xoxo

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